Final Thoughts On Jason Greenberg
But the odds are, he's probably turned into a nice guy. I mean, come on. The people who say "mean kids just grow up to be mean adults" are the same people who say "ignore them and they'll get bored" and those of us who've been teased and bullied know that one's a huge lie.
Jason is probably perfectly nice. His dog is probably sweet. His wife is probably nice. Which makes me wonder.
How many people am I friends with now who, had they known me growing up, would have hurt me then? Not a lot, because I don't have many friends. But of the ones I have, which ones never would have thought I was funny or interesting or creative or whatever? Which ones would have been putting brown clay on my chair (sixth grade) in the hopes I'd sit on it (never did)? Which ones would have put their hand over the empty space at their lunch table and told me I can't sit there, forcing me to wander the cafeteria on the first day of fifth grade until the lunch aide had to intervene and force a group of girls to allow me to sit with them (they never talked to me)?
Jason is probably perfectly nice as a grownup. If I met him at someone else's party he'd probably talk to me without glancing at someone else, hoping they'd rescue him from me.
The reality is that I'll never know who would have been mean to me when I was a kid. I will never, ever know. Jodee Blanco was bullied and teased also. However unlike me, she turned into someone undeniably fabulous and successful. She could be one of those people who goes on Maury for all she's become after being branded a loser in high school. Another way that Jodee Blanco and I are different is she went to her reunion, while I was not even invited to mine.
She went, she talked to people, and some apologized for their past behaviors. Jodee got a date out of it. The last time I saw people from high school who'd teased me, they smirked at me.
Jason, I hope you're a nicer person now than you were then. And maybe, if you decide to have kids, you can teach them to be nicer than you were. I'm sure some other little kid would appreciate that.