A Dick Move
I'm always disgusted by dick moves, partially because they're so dicky but also because I usually think the people involved should know better.
Two e-mails went out at the law firm I'm long-term temping at.
One was an invitation to the San Francisco office, for the firm's holiday lunch, scheduled during work hours. I did not respond, thinking that since I am technically not a member of the firm, it would not be right of me to go.
The other was an e-mail asking who wants to participate in a holiday gift exchange. I responded that I'd like to participate, figuring it'd be a good way for me to re-gift something at home that's perfectly nice, but not my taste.
Last week, I got an email from the head of HR asking me to RSVP to the holiday lunch and say whether I'd like the fish or steak. I respond this way:
Sorry I hadn't responded earlier - thought it was just for firm employees. But if I'm welcome, I'd certainly love to attend. Filet mignon, please!
Thanks HR,
Green
A couple of days ago, I got this email back from the guy coordinating the gift exchange:
Okay, what the fuck?! Either I'm in, or I'm not! Pick one and be consistent! So I'm welcome to have you, the firm, spend however much it costs per plate for me, but not welcome to participate in something that would cost the firm itself NOTHING?
I was really tempted to forward that message to HR saying that in light of it, I don't feel it'd be proper for me to attend the holiday lunch after all, sorry for any inconvenience.
It SUCKS that it's during work hours also, because it's not like I can get out of the lunch by saying I have other plans, since I should have planned to be at work during those hours. So you'd better fucking believe I'm putting in for the time I spend at that lunch. Hell, I may even steal an extra dessert to bring home to Trixie, too.
I'm really disgusted by this. And upset that I have to go to a fucking party with a slew of people who I don't know, and who obviously have no interest in me since I'm "just a temp." Maybe I'll get "sick" that day and go home early.
Two e-mails went out at the law firm I'm long-term temping at.
One was an invitation to the San Francisco office, for the firm's holiday lunch, scheduled during work hours. I did not respond, thinking that since I am technically not a member of the firm, it would not be right of me to go.
The other was an e-mail asking who wants to participate in a holiday gift exchange. I responded that I'd like to participate, figuring it'd be a good way for me to re-gift something at home that's perfectly nice, but not my taste.
Last week, I got an email from the head of HR asking me to RSVP to the holiday lunch and say whether I'd like the fish or steak. I respond this way:
Sorry I hadn't responded earlier - thought it was just for firm employees. But if I'm welcome, I'd certainly love to attend. Filet mignon, please!
Thanks HR,
Green
A couple of days ago, I got this email back from the guy coordinating the gift exchange:
Hi Green, I wasn't sure if anyone told you but the firm thought it would be
a little awkward to get a temp a gift especially when they didn't know you.
Sorry about that.
Hopefully everything works out and you become permanent so you can participate next year.
Okay, what the fuck?! Either I'm in, or I'm not! Pick one and be consistent! So I'm welcome to have you, the firm, spend however much it costs per plate for me, but not welcome to participate in something that would cost the firm itself NOTHING?
I was really tempted to forward that message to HR saying that in light of it, I don't feel it'd be proper for me to attend the holiday lunch after all, sorry for any inconvenience.
It SUCKS that it's during work hours also, because it's not like I can get out of the lunch by saying I have other plans, since I should have planned to be at work during those hours. So you'd better fucking believe I'm putting in for the time I spend at that lunch. Hell, I may even steal an extra dessert to bring home to Trixie, too.
I'm really disgusted by this. And upset that I have to go to a fucking party with a slew of people who I don't know, and who obviously have no interest in me since I'm "just a temp." Maybe I'll get "sick" that day and go home early.
posted by Green at 11/30/2007 10:30:00 AM
5 Comments:
I think I'd write it off as organizational (i.e. Impersonal) lack of etiquette. There are obviously holes in how they do things which lead to different individuals making conflicting judgements. Going to the luncheon would be a chance to meet and greet, and show your face around so people can connect the name with the face. And it's probably always good to meet new people (that's not how I actually feel, but intellectually I believe it's true)
If you still feel the same way and are still really sick, you can spread the misery around!
I would still go to the luncheon. That's the official firm function; the gift exchange looks to be organized by an individual employee -- one who clearly doesn't have any business organizing anything more sensitive than her sock drawer. I don't think you should let this experience sour you on the firm as a whole.
I say you go to the lunch, enjoy your food, and buy yourself a gift :)
what an assface. enjoy the filet and buy yourself something nice, like scotty said.
And may I add it's a good people watching/blog reporting opportunity.
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