Things Sure Have Changed Since I Moved
I just ended a phone conversation with a friend by telling her to go change her panties. Yeah, I'll wait while you run off with that one.
Back now? Good. Sorry, we weren't having phone sex - she's just pregnant and she coughed.
Why am I blogging someone else's TMI? Not to embarrass her. If I wanted to embarrass her I'd say who it was, which I won't, of course. I'm talking about it because ... well, because I'm amazed that we (she and I, not me and all nine of you) talked about it.
When I lived in Florida, I was friends with about five people over four years. Three of them got pregnant and had babies while I lived there. One of them nursed her baby, and asked if I minded if she did that in front of me (naturally I said no, but I was uncomfortable).
I cannot imagine ANY of the three of them telling me if they'd peed when they coughed, let alone us being able to laugh about it. Never mind my teasing them about it! And yet, that's what just happened.
Despite still being friends with three of the friends I made in Florida, tonight's phone call made me realize that the friendships I've made in San Francisco are on a whole different level. I'm not sure if they are deeper friendships, but they are certainly on a very different level. Less polite. No, "less polite' isn't quite it. Less formal? Less ... caring what other people think, maybe.
I did not have a good day today. I was exhausted, as if I was dealing with a week of Mondays, rather than just one Monday. I was dragging all day and so tired that I thought about telling my bosses I was sick and needed to go home early (I didn't). When I came home, I could barely change out of my work clothes. My plan was to read and go to bed by 8 p.m., without eating dinner. Then my friend called. We talked, we laughed, we cursed, we shared some deep thoughts, she did the cough/pee thing, we joked around. We got off the phone. All of a sudden I wasn't quite so tired anymore. That never happened with my Florida friends.
Back now? Good. Sorry, we weren't having phone sex - she's just pregnant and she coughed.
Why am I blogging someone else's TMI? Not to embarrass her. If I wanted to embarrass her I'd say who it was, which I won't, of course. I'm talking about it because ... well, because I'm amazed that we (she and I, not me and all nine of you) talked about it.
When I lived in Florida, I was friends with about five people over four years. Three of them got pregnant and had babies while I lived there. One of them nursed her baby, and asked if I minded if she did that in front of me (naturally I said no, but I was uncomfortable).
I cannot imagine ANY of the three of them telling me if they'd peed when they coughed, let alone us being able to laugh about it. Never mind my teasing them about it! And yet, that's what just happened.
Despite still being friends with three of the friends I made in Florida, tonight's phone call made me realize that the friendships I've made in San Francisco are on a whole different level. I'm not sure if they are deeper friendships, but they are certainly on a very different level. Less polite. No, "less polite' isn't quite it. Less formal? Less ... caring what other people think, maybe.
I did not have a good day today. I was exhausted, as if I was dealing with a week of Mondays, rather than just one Monday. I was dragging all day and so tired that I thought about telling my bosses I was sick and needed to go home early (I didn't). When I came home, I could barely change out of my work clothes. My plan was to read and go to bed by 8 p.m., without eating dinner. Then my friend called. We talked, we laughed, we cursed, we shared some deep thoughts, she did the cough/pee thing, we joked around. We got off the phone. All of a sudden I wasn't quite so tired anymore. That never happened with my Florida friends.
posted by Green at 6/12/2006 08:11:00 PM
3 Comments:
It's so freeing to have a friend like that that you can talk to about anything and not have to worry about how or what to say because you can say anything. There's nothing better.
I read somewhere that one test of whether a friend is good for you is how you normally feel after spending time with him or her. If you feel energized and good about yourself, the friendship is healthy. If you feel drained and/or negative, you're better off without him or her.
now thats friendship.
Thanks for chatting with me last night.
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