"Hey, Thanks For BEING This Morning"
1. The more you have, the less it hurts when something bad is going on. I had an awful day yesterday. Last night I got a book and a note in the mail from a friend. The title of this entry is a direct quote from a friend who said it to me this morning. I'm going to lunch with a work friend today, and just made tentative plans with someone else for this weekend. That's a lot of friend stuff for me. Not in an overwhelming way, but in an emotional hug kind of way. In Florida I could go for months on end without having plans with anyone other than my grandfather. Yesterday sucked, but I'm almost over it, in large part due to friends.
2. The more you have (and the higher quality those friendships are), the less it hurts when one friend says or does something hurtful. Not that I write a friend off when they hurt my feelings, so I don't care when a friend hurts me. I do care, but I don't need to worry that I'm compromising my values because they're the only friend I've got. I've got others now. That's giving me the confidence to deal with the relationship the way I want to, the way I know I should, not the way someone whose friendship eggs are all in one basket being tightly held by someone else.
2. The more you have (and the higher quality those friendships are), the less it hurts when one friend says or does something hurtful. Not that I write a friend off when they hurt my feelings, so I don't care when a friend hurts me. I do care, but I don't need to worry that I'm compromising my values because they're the only friend I've got. I've got others now. That's giving me the confidence to deal with the relationship the way I want to, the way I know I should, not the way someone whose friendship eggs are all in one basket being tightly held by someone else.
posted by Green at 2/10/2006 10:53:00 AM
3 Comments:
Hey, which firm do you work? Funny stuff... and friends are the bestest :)
Hello,
Nice blog.
I think those friends diffuse the "bigness" of stuff in our heads. Like a big dose of perspective removed from our own 'focused on the shit' brains, there to remind us that the world is bigger than us, and we can get through those bad days so much easier.
I read your post from Thursday and it does indeed sound like an awful day. I hate those, and I hate myself on those days. I'm glad you were able to look outside the shit that day and look forward to the things you've got planned.
Remember each of us that likes and loves you during your upcoming stressful time when your brother has his surgery. We will be waiting outside your worried head to distract you.
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