Ice Queen
(Except she's not married, so technically, wouldn't that make her an ice princess? Whatever, the point is, I suppose almost every big office has one, as does mine.)
The file clerk tells me on numerous occasions that I seem so put together. After I finish laughing...
Turns out she thinks that because my socks usually match my outfit. Okay fine, always match my outfit. But I like socks. (And pajamas.) Today when the file clerk lifted the hem of my pants to see if my socks matched my green turtleneck (they do, naturally), she said it again. My response was, "You know who I always think looks very put together? Marina."
The file clerk made a face. "What? You don't think so?" (I know my dad is internally cringing and shaking his head, thinking I shouldn't talk about other people at work. But now that I've said this, he's protesting, saying "No I'm not. You have to make the decisions you think are right....")"
Marina is an ice queen." I was surprised. Marina is an associate who lives near me and has a dog. We've talked about our neighborhood several times. She's not overly out-going, like the grandmas are, but I think she's nice enough as far as I'm concerned. I've never heard her yell at anyone, or say anything mean or hurtful. She's just reserved. But the file clerk did have to agree with me; Marina does dress nicely.
I don't see her as an Ice Queen, the more I think about it. I see Marina more as someone who doesn't get involved in any petty shit, someone who keeps her head down and focuses on her work, someone who's not peppy, but will talk with you if you talk with her. She also happens to have amazingly perfect posture any mother (or physical therapist) would be impressed by. Shoulders back, chin up, back straight. Which I suppose does kind of make her look haughty. To me though, it just looks like she may have taken ballet as a kid and been serious about it.
It upsets me. That someone like Marina is looked at badly. Because I'm not very outgoing either. I take a while to warm up to people. The idea that people would think I'm an ice queen because of that makes me sad.
The file clerk tells me on numerous occasions that I seem so put together. After I finish laughing...
Turns out she thinks that because my socks usually match my outfit. Okay fine, always match my outfit. But I like socks. (And pajamas.) Today when the file clerk lifted the hem of my pants to see if my socks matched my green turtleneck (they do, naturally), she said it again. My response was, "You know who I always think looks very put together? Marina."
The file clerk made a face. "What? You don't think so?" (I know my dad is internally cringing and shaking his head, thinking I shouldn't talk about other people at work. But now that I've said this, he's protesting, saying "No I'm not. You have to make the decisions you think are right....")"
Marina is an ice queen." I was surprised. Marina is an associate who lives near me and has a dog. We've talked about our neighborhood several times. She's not overly out-going, like the grandmas are, but I think she's nice enough as far as I'm concerned. I've never heard her yell at anyone, or say anything mean or hurtful. She's just reserved. But the file clerk did have to agree with me; Marina does dress nicely.
I don't see her as an Ice Queen, the more I think about it. I see Marina more as someone who doesn't get involved in any petty shit, someone who keeps her head down and focuses on her work, someone who's not peppy, but will talk with you if you talk with her. She also happens to have amazingly perfect posture any mother (or physical therapist) would be impressed by. Shoulders back, chin up, back straight. Which I suppose does kind of make her look haughty. To me though, it just looks like she may have taken ballet as a kid and been serious about it.
It upsets me. That someone like Marina is looked at badly. Because I'm not very outgoing either. I take a while to warm up to people. The idea that people would think I'm an ice queen because of that makes me sad.
posted by Green at 2/13/2007 09:49:00 PM
2 Comments:
I fall into that category too. I'm not stuck-up. I'm just quiet, shy, introverted, whatever you want to call it. I get so frustrated with more outgoing people who don't understand the difference between being reserved and being cold.
Yet, if I tried to force myself to be more outgoing, others would pick up that it wasn't sincere or natural and call me a phony. So you can't win.
I sometimes wonder if people think that about me. I'm friendly, and love the friends and family that I have...but I'm very shy. Not the outgoing type. I normally don't speak unless I'm spoken to, or I know the person very well. Growing up my mother always told me I needed to warm up to people more or they'd think I was a snob. That didn't help...LOL! But you know what? I know what the important people in my life think of me. They're the ones that matter. If they think I'm an 'ice queen' obviously they don't know me very well. And if they're the type of person to judge based on their limited knowledge of who I am...so be it. I probably didn't need their opinion anyway!
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