What's My Butterfly Effect?

Last weekend I saw the movie The Butterfly Effect, with Ashton Kutcher. In the movie, Ashton has a few events in his life that alter the course it takes. As he reviews his life he can go back in time, and change one event at a time, and then see how it alters the rest. One time is when his neighbor's dad makes him do obscene things with a girl on camera- he goes back in time, tells the dad off, and instead of the girl growing up to become a waitress who has no self respect and ultimately commits suicide, she goes on to college and dates Ashton. But the dad turns all his rage on the brother of the girl, and the brother turns all his rage on Ashton ... there's a whole ripple effect. You get the idea.

It made me wonder what the events in my life were that changed the entire course of where I was going. The longing to have done better, the absolute horror to think it could be worse...where would I be? And what are my butterfly effects?

1. Moving to NY when I was 3&1/2?
2. Getting kicked out of high school?
3. Failing miserably out of college?
4. Being sick for a year and having to relearn how to walk?
5. Moving to Florida?
6. The time I said I love you to my father and he didn't say it back?
7. Moving to CA?

Could I have changed my butterfly effects?

All the times I cried siting on the bottom of the staircase listening to my parents and brother talk and laugh with each other, could I have altered the direction of my life, and the direction of my relationship with each of them if I'd just walked in and joined them?

If I'd been able to articulate what I didn't "get" each time I said, "I don't get it" in school?

If I'd understood the importance of getting back up on the beam?

At what point is life within your control? Does it go in and out of control? When it's out of your control do you always have the ability to grab it back? Or are you just constantly trying to readjust to wherever your life is taking yo